In Marriage we deal with different situations and circumstances many of which are seemly unbearable. In some instances, maturity has to take place to make things better. However, we are not called or required to change each other. As believers we do have authority over many things, however, we don’t have authority over people. Real talk, we don’t have authority over our children. We are in stewardship of our children, which means being faithful in leading them into a personal relationship with Jesus and helping them find their identity in Jesus.

We're not owners of our children; they are merely entrusted to us. That’s an entirely different post, back to the topic.

Just the same, we aren’t in marriages to change one another. We are called to be an example of what we desire to see in the other person if they’re displaying it or not. In other words, we are spending most of our time being that which we desire to receive from our partner. I didn’t say this is an easy task. It’s rather difficult to quiet thoughts that tell you, “I’m being mis-treated and I don’t have to put up with this.”

Disclaimer: Now, please don’t misunderstand. I am not talking about mental or physical abuse, which should not be tolerated under any circumstance.

What I’m referring to is the frustrations that can be prevalent in marriage as a result of immaturity in Christ. You’re spouse may have a relationship with Jesus and display some attributes that don’t resemble Jesus at all. Those are places that haven’t been perfected.

Fortunately, the word of God promises

“I will perfect that which concerns you” (Psalm 138:8)

This scripture explains the shortcomings we posses giving us the assurance that Jesus is here for us, completing the finish work on the inside. We all fall short of his glory which explains where we need him to lead us along the way.

This solidifies we need Jesus especially in our marriages.

Clearly, there is a reason we leave our mother and father and cleave to each other, and we begin the process of becoming one flesh.”

(Matthew 19:5-6)

And, “A cord of three strands is not easily broken” ((Ecc.4:12)

Marriage is a place that we are continuing to develop, mature, and where transformation happens. The reason I say this is because it behooves us to constantly look at the person in the mirror. If you’re committed to a lasting relationship with your spouse, then you must be willing to make personal adjustments daily. I’m not speaking of demeaning yourself or being less than who God created you to be.

I am speaking of humility, kindness, gentleness, kindness, patience, and long suffering being a regular barometer, which are Christ-like characteristics.

(Gal 5:22-23)

Marriage is both challenging and rewarding at the same time.

There are moments of struggle, confusion, and clear attacks from the enemy, however there are rewards which will surface from time to time. More importantly, the rewards outweigh the struggles. In fact, conflicts, disagreements, confusion, struggles, and disheartening moments. Will certainly, be the very situations that turn your marriage into a blessing for others.

God works all things for the good of those who love him and are called to according to his glory.

(Romans 8:28)

Lastly, believers are Called to hope, believe and trust.

As believers, we will experience trials and tribulations, however we have promises from God to stand on.

Hope: (Micah 7:7) “But as for me, I watch in hope for the Lord, I will wait for God my savior; my God will hear me.”

Believe: ((Heb 11:6) “ But without faith it is impossible to please him; for he who comes to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.”

Trust: (Proverbs 3: 5-6) “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.”

These are scriptures we can hold fast to while we’re awaiting change and growth in our marriage.



God sees and knows what we are experiencing he’s concerned and he is faithful!